Kicked Outta House What Should I do?

sandman2866 · Post by **sandman2866** » Tue Sep 25, 2007 4:51 pm

Ok... I got kicked outta my house im only 16...Im currenlty staying with a freind but next week im renting an apartment I got enough money to last me about 2 months of rent and food...and I have a part time job the brings in about 400 a month the apartment Im gonna rent is 360 month with ultilites...I wanna stay In school so I pretty much cant get any job that will pay enough to get food cloths and pay the rent I really dont wanna go on student welfare cause I dont wanna be a leetch but In a case like this would it be acceptable to go on it? Cause I really dont see any other options...

Post by **Skyone** » Tue Sep 25, 2007 4:53 pm

The most reasonable question here is, what did you do and how much did you get caught with?

Post by **bicostp** » Tue Sep 25, 2007 4:57 pm

I'm not sure you can be legally kicked out if you're a minor. (What's the legal age in Canada? Here below you it's 18.) But seriously what the hell did you do?!

You should apply for as much government assistance as you can, and try your damndest to stay in school. (There's not a whole lot of jobs you can get in the future if you drop out.)

Skyone wrote:The most reasonable question here is, what did you do and how much did you get caught with?

PeglegJimmy · Post by **PeglegJimmy** » Tue Sep 25, 2007 4:58 pm

I'll trade you lives!!!! My mom sucks(She does more than 1 kind of sucking...)

P.S. Skyone I just want to freaking eat your sig... it looks tasty

sandman2866 · Post by **sandman2866** » Tue Sep 25, 2007 4:58 pm

well honeslty its cause I didnt come home after school and didnt call till 7 but its probbaly gotta do with alota crap bettween me and my step dad

ganonbanned · Post by **ganonbanned** » Tue Sep 25, 2007 4:59 pm

Skyone wrote:The most reasonable question here is, what did you do and how much did you get caught with?

yeah.

dude seriously, that really sucks ass. my parents threaten to kick me out all the time for stupid ass reasons.

I'd apply everywhere and do as good as I could in school. seriously. DONT DROP OUT. and if you sell your games, sell them for as much as you can thats reasonable.

Twisted Warthog · Post by **Twisted Warthog** » Tue Sep 25, 2007 5:02 pm

Your step dad sounds like a huge A-Hole already. Is he?

Kurt_ · Post by **Kurt_** » Tue Sep 25, 2007 5:04 pm

His story seems to be lacking some details. Parents don't kick their kids out of the house permanently simply because they came home late. Once.

But if that is the case, go to your parents and cry to them, not us. They're more likely to help clothe, feed, and shelter you than a few bytes of text can.

I looked into it, and the age of majority in Ontario is, not surprisingly, 18. Legally, your parents can't kick you out of the house. Once you've talked to them (do it again) and still have no results, call this number:

1 800 668 6868

It's kids help phone. I'm sure you've heard of it. They can helpyou better than the internet can.

Let's not forget the police. They could most definitely help you. The very least they can do is tell you what your parents can/ can not do.

However, unless you're home life is really unstable, I don't recommend anything but kids help phone and talking to your parents, because anything else may land one/all in jail, and then you'd have nowhere to go but a foster home.

Here's some links:

http://www.kidshelpphone.ca/en/
http://www.jfcy.org/

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Most caregivers do not intend to neglect their children. It usually results from ignorance about appropriate care for children or an ability to plan ahead.

Neglect occurs when a caregiver fails to provide basic needs such as adequate food, sleep, safety, supervision, clothing or medical treatment.

Post by **CronoTriggerfan** » Tue Sep 25, 2007 5:08 pm

Man, that sucks terribly.

If I were in your position, before I went for the welfare option (which is reasonable if you hit rock bottom, of course) is try to get a higher paying job. Apply everywhere you can, and see if you can get something out of it. Also, talk to your school counselors if you have any. Not only can they give good advice, but more importantly, they can offer you flexibility; we've got kids in your position at our school who have programs worked out where they only go to school for about half a day. The work would probably be harder since you'd have to make up credits as well as give up some weekends, chunks of vacations, etc., but you'd have more time to work. Lastly, I know it sounds kinda bad, but if there's any soup kitchens around, try eating there. Again, it sounds bad, yes, but it is free!

Also, as bic said, the legality of what your parents did is seriously questionable. Then again, it's probably not the best idea to be living in a hostile environment. Good luck, man.

CTFan

sandman2866 · Post by **sandman2866** » Tue Sep 25, 2007 5:09 pm

Well its pretty much all my step dad he hates me...Ive talked to my since ive been kicked out and she said she wishes she could do somthin and crap like that....but its alota build up tension bettween me and my step dad skippin school....weed...drinkin a lot never home...But copulate yeh know I do everything Im asked of and I think im a fairly good person I dont do anything to hurt anyone enless they deserve I got a job...Ive worked since i was 12 I pass all my classes...so if I sell weed smoke it go drinkin with my freinds or any other crap It doesnt affect nothin...but anyways...I orginally asked this cause I didnt want to be a leach on the system and see what other people would think of me if I did...since what most people have said they understand does anyone know how to apply for student welfare in ontario???...I know a couple of my freinds are on it....

Edit....I dont think it would be so bad if i get on the welfare thing cause I make about 400 a month and my freinds get there rent payed for by the student welfare plus lil xtra money but not a lot....so I could afford everything pretty easy i think

vskid · Post by **vskid** » Tue Sep 25, 2007 5:15 pm

1. Try to get un-kicked out. Beg your parents, whatever. If unsuccessful, see next step.

2. Go to the authorities, since, as bic said, its likely illegal, but make sure you have completely used any way possible in step 1, cause your parents will be really mad if you get them in trouble and all you had to do was apologize or whatever. If unsuccessful, see next step.

3. Try to find a relative to stay with, if you have any close by that'll take you in. They might be able to help you with your parents, too. If unsuccessful, see next step.

4. Try to stay at your friend's (or one of your other friend's) house. But don't be a freeloader unless they absolutely insist, offer them a rent or something. Whether or not you end up paying, don't cause them any trouble and try to help around the house and that as much as possible. If unsuccessful, see next step.

5. Get your own apartment, as you said. Make this a last resort, since in your current financial condition, you would barely survive. If unsuccessful, see next step.

6. Sit down, cry, and wish you weren't in this situation. If you get to this step, start from step 1 again and hope you have better luck this time around.

Kurt_ · Post by **Kurt_** » Tue Sep 25, 2007 5:17 pm

Wow quick responses. I added lots to my post above.

IT IS ILLEGAL.

1) Call up your parents
2) Call 1 800 668 6868.
3) Call police.

See my previous post.

Worst case scenario, if you do the following soon, is you end up in a foster home.

sandman2866 · Post by **sandman2866** » Tue Sep 25, 2007 5:27 pm

Well im deffinelty not talking to my step dad agen and im never going home....im pretty sure if your 16+ you can move out with your parents permission...

Edit...I know 2 of my freinds are under 18 and living by themselves on student welfare....weather its legal or not I dont know...but I dought they'd be able to get on student welfare with if it was illegal

Kurt_ · Post by **Kurt_** » Tue Sep 25, 2007 5:32 pm

I'm pretty sure the government of Ontario says otherwise.

sandman2866 · Post by **sandman2866** » Tue Sep 25, 2007 5:39 pm

From the one site you showed me:

Can I decide where I want to live?

If you are 16 years of age or older, you can decide where you want to live. This may or may not involve your parents. If you are under 16, your parents can obtain a warrant from the police to have you returned home if you are living in a place that puts you in need of protection; in other words a place were you are at risk of physical, emotional or sexual abuse. The Childrenâ€™s Aid Society can also take you into care and place you away from home.