Been in Love?

Guitar Slinger 89 · Post by **Guitar Slinger 89** » Mon Mar 07, 2005 9:42 pm

The way I see it is, why waste your time? Not that there is anything wrong with dating for awhile, it depends on who you are. I mean, I really don't want to "experiment" with a lot of people in dating. Some people may want to "experiment" for a while. I just want to be with her and when I feel like this (incase you missed it on page one)...

"...I swore a ton of bricks had hit me in the head,
and what you do little baby, I ain't over yet

Every time I see ya make me feel so fine,
my heart beatin' crazy, my blood runnin' wild
Your lovin' makes me feel like a mighty mighty man,
love me baby ain't I your man

I'm a love struck baby
Yeah, I'm a love struck baby
You got me love struck baby,
and I know just what to do

Sparks start flyin' every time we meet
Let me tell you baby you knock me off my feet..."

-SRV

jaytee · Post by **jaytee** » Tue Mar 08, 2005 12:05 am

Guitar Slinger 89 wrote:The way I see it is, why waste your time? Not that there is anything wrong with dating for awhile, it depends on who you are. I mean, I really don't want to "experiment" with a lot of people in dating. Some people may want to "experiment" for a while. I just want to be with her and when I feel like this (incase you missed it on page one)...

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well, first of all, its obvious that you've never dated for fun, because it's quite the opposite of a waste. the way i see it, why deprive yourself of having fun while you'te young, getting to know different people, etc instead of committing to someone for the rest of your life before most of your life has even happened?

second, i find that people that date for fun or looks for awhile tend to be better judges of future, serious relationships. there's a balance to be made though (people that never stop dating for looks obviously are going to have trouble making a lasting relationship, and people that never have been in a real relationship tend to assume that their first one is true love, and they stay in the relationship for way longer than they should [or get dumped] just because they've convinced themselves that this is what love is).

and last, its not as though i haven't felt that same way about girls before. virtually every relationship i've been in (from ones lasting a week and a half to ones lasting a year and a half) starts out that way. i really can't say that feelings at the beginning of a relationship are the best way to judge the relationship, i mean, why date a girl if she doesn't make you all googly eyed and stupid?

SgtBowhack · Post by **SgtBowhack** » Tue Mar 08, 2005 3:08 am

makuraken: No, she's American, but she speaks Japanese. We're both here in Kobe. Truthfully, I thought of going for Japanese girls, but they typically aren't what I'm looking for. I'm not saying that there is no Japanese girl that would be right for me, but I think this girl is, so I'm not gonna look for someone else just because they're Japanese

Dating for fun is fun while it lasts, but the breakups are crap to deal with, I think. I'm not sure it's necessarily worth it.

jaytee · Post by **jaytee** » Tue Mar 08, 2005 9:29 am

SgtBowhack wrote:Dating for fun is fun while it lasts, but the breakups are crap to deal with, I think. I'm not sure it's necessarily worth it.

I think you'd be hard-pressed to find a girl that you won't break up with on your first try, no matter why you're dating her.

And in my experience, break-ups are worse if you're focused on a lasting, serious relationship.

Unidentified Assilant · Tue Mar 08, 2005 1:57 pm

What do you mean if your only 15 don't go for a girlfriend or something... i'm 13, and I have a girlfriend, and had a lot of missed oppertunities, well 2, actually, thats my fault, but maybe I didn't want to go out with those people anyway. I can't remember now, it was a long time ago, when I was even younger.

Post by **Sparkfist** » Tue Mar 08, 2005 2:26 pm

Two reasons I can think of.
One being that your still young and its not a priorety to find someone to be with.
The other is your not really fully developed and some people on the board might see that if would be better to wait until your fully devloped metally to start a relationship with someone.

SgtBowhack · Post by **SgtBowhack** » Tue Mar 08, 2005 4:05 pm

jaytee wrote:
SgtBowhack wrote:Dating for fun is fun while it lasts, but the breakups are crap to deal with, I think. I'm not sure it's necessarily worth it.
I think you'd be hard-pressed to find a girl that you won't break up with on your first try, no matter why you're dating her.

And in my experience, break-ups are worse if you're focused on a lasting, serious relationship.

You fail

My fiancee is my first girlfriend. And honestly, we've told each other everything and are pretty decided on big issues, and respect each other enough to actually talk things out (which I think is the biggest problem in most people's relationships).

Now, you're probably thinking "You're desperate and afraid you won't get another girlfriend." Surprisingly, I've been propositioned by quite a few girls but have refused to go out with them for various reasons. Sometimes you can tell if it won't work out, if you already know the person as a friend.

I'm not going to say that breakups aren't worse when they come from serious relationships, but any sort of breakup isn't a fun affair. Personally, if I felt that breakups were inevitable, I would still go for the serious relationship because they're sure to be the ones where people learn the most about how to move on to a successful relationship.

Perhaps my success in relationships comes from being in college for years. I've had to live with other people in apartments, where we needed to solve problems without outside mediation. I learned what habits I had that made me hard to live with, and worked on those. I learned various things from my roommates' girlfriends too. I'm glad for those experiences. They may well save my marriage

jaytee · Post by **jaytee** » Tue Mar 08, 2005 4:11 pm

Unidentified Assilant wrote:What do you mean if your only 15 don't go for a girlfriend or something... i'm 13, and I have a girlfriend, and had a lot of missed oppertunities, well 2, actually, thats my fault, but maybe I didn't want to go out with those people anyway. I can't remember now, it was a long time ago, when I was even younger.

no, i'm saying look for a girlfriend, not for a wife.

sparkfist wrote:Two reasons I can think of.
One being that your still young and its not a priorety to find someone to be with.
The other is your not really fully developed and some people on the board might see that if would be better to wait until your fully devloped metally to start a relationship with someone.

the first one is pretty dead on. what is teenagerism if not having fun and shirking responsibility?
the second one is not at all what i'm saying (except maybet hat you're still probably more likely to change from 13 to 25 than from 25 to 50.)[/quote]

Motoman · Post by **Motoman** » Tue Mar 08, 2005 9:39 pm

There was this one girl at my school that had a crush on me and didn't really suit me. then over the summer i come back (8th grade) (who says too young!!) and.. holy cow (as guidelines go..no profanity) she's hot!! (She kinda hates me now) Darn

wut a difference 3 months makes.